Happiness requires our focused attention. It isn’t chasing the next moment, but “being completely engaged in the present moment.”

We are happy when we skillfully engage with:

• others, especially in friendship and love,
• goals that bring out the best in us,
• and the All of which we are part.

What’s needed is a guide that shows how to engage fully. Personal breakthroughs, life-long meditation, and twelve years of research resulted in the only East-West synthesis that exists.
I offer:

THE ULTIMATE RESOURCE BOOK

A Unified Theory of Happiness:
An East-Meets-West Approach to Fully Loving Your Life.

I USED TO BE SUPREMELY UNHAPPY

I was plagued by great doubt and questions, which, incidentally, collided with religious dogma. My most enduring question was: Can people like me be happy? I turned the question endlessly in my head, year after year, but the answer escaped me.

I became proactive and overcame posttraumatic stress, formed relationships, and pursued my goal of becoming a psychologist. Still I felt like a stranger in a strange world. Some things must come to us, such as the realization of being interconnected. Finally, silence struck me as I was climbing the stairs of my subway station while asking the oldest of my questions.

I halted. Suddenly I could hear and see as if for the first time. Even though it was loud all around me, the world unfolded quietly and peacefully in me.
The All made sense and became my home at once and for good. I noticed, I was happy.

If people like me can learn to engage with the world and flourish, anybody can.

HAPPINESS IS POSSIBLE 

While the book is not a cookie-cutter approach and requires on-going curiosity, it shows clearly how you can experience flow. Just don’t mistake happiness for “feeling wonderful.” True happiness goes beyond feelings. Instead, get ready to learn the SKILLS OF ENGAGEMENT.

Is it possible that you are too unhappy to be happy?

Yes. You might need professional support as I did and now offer as a Zen Psychologist. Asking for support is often the most consequential and courageous act of our lives.

However, do not ever postpone living your life to its fullest. You can work to heal your wounds, assure your basic needs are met, while also beginning to invite happiness into your life today.

Your life holds a promise every single moment you live. It’s never too early for flow experiences.

With the Western tools and Eastern paths, you will love your life more completely.

Why? Because you will get greater access to flow experiences that make you forget your irrational worries and fixations on things that ultimately don’t matter. You’ll learn to focus.

Flow connects you to something greater than yourself. The small world of ego vanishes as your sense of inter-connectedness sharpens. How?

You will learn to A) generate flow with four tools and B) tap into life’s existing flow on four paths.

The book ends with the bonus of The Theory of Elastic Consciousness. While nothing tops practice, this theory helps bring further together Western and Eastern ideas. As you get overall access to flow, you begin to flourish and LOVE LIFE exactly as it unfolds.

Who AM I

I love to write about flow as I experience it most of the time. As I remember life without flow all too well, it is my greatest desire to help make it accessible to my fellow people. Besides happiness, I also write about the awakened, aware mind, which are, as I realized, two subjects, not one. They are different but related.

My life is not perfect and I am not always as jovial as I am when I walk my dog on a sunny day. When there is a loss, I am as sad as everybody else. I have made friends with my vulnerability. Key to my happiness is the “know-how” I am sharing in A Unified Theory of Happiness, but also the radical acceptance of life as it unfolds in me.

I have never believed that happiness is feeling wonderful all the time. Instead, I feel the wonder of life all the time.

Besides being a writer and a psychologist in private practice, I live in the quiet mountains of Topanga with my husband and three children, our dog Bella, chickens, and several odd and interesting fish. Nature cures me from most of my ills. I consider nature my temple in which I practice walking meditation every day of my life.

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